People often find themselves perplexed by problems which seem unsolvable. Using search engines such as Google, jux2 (searches Google, MSN and Yahoo and compares results) or others can be frustrating or rewarding. You need to be willing to try and re-try different combinations of words.

For example: If you type in the words workplace bullying you will find a lot of helpful advice and techniques which may or not serve your needs. If you type in 'advice' you may get a much larger selection.

Here are some live links to several sources of good advice:

Elder Wisdom Circle is a San Francisco Bay Area based non-profit association comprised of Elders nationwide who offer advice and Seekers worldwide who solicit it by contacting the website-(paste it into your address pane or search engine):

elderwisdomcircle.org

One way to find focus in your life is to study assertiveness. Assertiveness training classes should be available in major cities. Assertiveness is taking care of your self without hurting others. See this link for more information:

mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap13/chap13e.htm

Another is to apply positive affirmations to your daily life. This is a big help for developing positive self-esteem. That doesn't mean egotism, it means seeing that you are a worthy person. You can help yourself feel better by using positive affirmations. It can be done in only a few minutes a day. Try this link for details and instruction:

mjbovo.com/Affirmations.htm

Self-hypnosis is a powerful tool for improving your emotional life. Paste this into your search engine for a site which provides free self-hypnosis instruction: hypnos.info/pages/freeselfhypnosis.html

Here is a site that has articles on self-help in many areas. It is edited by a licensed psychologist:

selfhelpmagazine.com

The sites below can be found by copy/paste in a search engine:

This site that offers free self-hypnosis CDs. They charge a small amount for shipping and handling but the CDs are free. I have studied self-hypnosis and know that it is beneficial. You may be able to find other free services of this sort by typing in "free self-hypnosis" or something similar into Google or other search engines:

rapidtransformations.com/freecds.htm

You might also consider some sort of yoga. A very popular form is Transcendental Meditation (TM) which is widely available. Yoga will relax the person and make life easier to deal with. Ffor more information about TM:

tm.org

Another popular program is Nichiren Shoshu which involves chanting which helps a person to get centered and calm. To find out more:

nst.org

Sylvia Rimm is a psychologist whose website can help with problems about raising children:

sylviarimm.com

This is about pain relief:

rd.com/content/openContent.do?contentId=14804

Here are some sites about conversation starters and other ways to learn how to socialize:

myjellybean.com/flirt/convo.html

ehow.com/how_10812_make-small-talk.html

ri.essortment.com/howtosociali_ryyn.htm

oror.essortment.com/howtosocializ_ruyh.htm

By spending a little time and effort you can find an almost unlimited supply of help for yourself on the web. Good hunting and best wishes.

Jack Wilson

Jack Wilson is an artist, writer, poet, musician, composer now living in Tempe Arizona.

He has translated many poems, stories and songs from English into Esperanto and has taught self-improvement, art, creativity and writing classes for adults in Los Angeles and Phoenix.